To acheive this, first you must be mindful of the emotions associated with your fetish. Say you are aroused by the idea of being a woman - what emotions are involved throughout your fantasy? Is there a sort of panic-excitement? Is there a sense of shame that feels arousing? What ever is it, be very mindful of it. Try to be aware of the precise feelings, and the progression of feelings.
If you are not keenly aware of your feelings, start of by thinking about your fetish. Get a perfect sense of your emotions. Now, try to experience those same emotions in the context of being with a woman (if you are a non-homosexual man; if you are a homosexual man think about a man, and if you are a woman, I don't know, I don't understand female sexuality enough). See if you can attribute panic-excitement or arousing-shame or whatever it is that you feel to the imagined encounter with the woman.
If you are having difficulty with this, feel free to slip into a fetishistic fantasy to fetch out your emotions, and then bring them back into the more vanilla sexual fantasy, and then run with it. Perhaps the idea of a woman wanting to have sex with you while you try to resist it will turn you on. Maybe the idea of a woman dancing to turn you on, or a woman shying slipping into the shower with you will turn you on. See where your mind wanders, while always trying to experience the emotions you feel in the fetishistic fantasy in your more vanilla fantasy.
After attempting this, please tell me about your experience with this method on Discord, because feedback is essential.
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